It seems that there is too much heavy grief lingering around. I don’t know if it’s because I am getting older, or if it’s due to the vast connections online, but loss of life has become almost a daily topic. Grief used to be personal and private. Nowadays there are more venues for discussing and working through sorrow, but there is still a raw aspect that one may have to deal with by themselves. As with other emotional difficulties, essential oils can assist one with the grieving process.
Coping with grief is a highly individual undertaking. There are stages of grief written up in psychology texts, although everyone deals with loss in their own way. The five levels are seen by doctors as denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. I recently suffered a loss and was stuck in the second level of anger with an emphasis on feeling helpless. I found myself being drawn to the essential oils of Lavender (Lavandula officinalis) and Marjoram (Origanum majorana), both being oils that can help ease the mind and assist with relaxation. They were used in a roller ball during the day and in diffusion at night. During more difficult nights, Clary Sage (Salvia sclarea) was added to help attain deeper sleep. Even as I write this, tears still fill my eyes. I don’t expect that reaction to disappear completely, but by inhaling my essential oils I finally have the courage to type these words and persevere.
As recovery from the loss of a loved one progresses, there are other supportive essential oils that can be helpful.
Rose (Rosa damascena) is often chosen in times of great loss. It connects to the heart and provides a sense of love.
Bergamot (Citrus bergamia) helps with anxiety and encourages joyful thoughts.
Cedarwood (Cedrus atlantica) can offer inner strength during emotionally challenging events.
Cypress (Cupresses sempriverens) has long been seen to aid the grieving process. In fact, these trees have a history of being planted in cemeteries.
Frankincense (Boswellia carterii) is beneficial for emotional centering and peaceful introspection.
Neroli (Citrus aurantium var. amara) works in blends as an antidepressant and can reduce angry feelings.
In loving memory of Pete Knox. You will be missed.